First Date Tips

Where I live in Idaho parents discourage dating before age 16. The brain reaches maturity near this age for most people. Vintage Trouwjurk That means that more mature decisions can be made. However in our society many youth start dating earlier. In some societies youth are married by age 14. But our society is not prepared for such early marriages and complications can arise that are difficult to rectify. There split voor Prom Dresses are some communities where youth have High Low Schoolfeest Jurken sexual intercourse at age 12 or so. Teenage pregnancies are fairly common. Talk to your parents to see what they thing the proper age should be before that first date. You may be surprised at what they say. Some will say that age 14 is right. I think that age 16 is wiser.

Associate With Other Youth in Groups Before Dating

Associations in groups can lead to meaningful interactions that will show to you the personality and capabilities of a person you have a physical interest in. Remember that dating often leads to courtship and marriage so unless you are dating a person just for the fun of it thing about him or her as a future spouse. Love can be sustained best in marriage by mature people who are able to cope with financial and other such problems. If you are dating a guy who is a member of the engineering club at school, you know he might have potential and end up making a better living than another person. If you go with a girl who is a member of the hiking club, you know that she likes the outdoors. If you date a member of your church you know that you most likely have similar religious views. I know that this will not replace that drive you have to date that girl with the green eyes or that boy who plays football and is built like a brick but it may help you realize that your future will bring challenges that you will share with your spouse. So take dating seriously, don't be over critical about the person you go out with, just realize you don't have to date the same person often or ever again.

If you are going to date before age 14 then double date. You will have more fun and avoid too intimate relationships. You can play tennis, take a hike, share a picnic lunch, go to a movie and then pizza, there are lots of things to do. Stay away from parties where drugs or alcohol my be present. Make sure that any party you go to is chaperoned by adults. Keep your parents informed about what you are doing, when you will get home, etc. That is why we have cell phones.

Avoid Petting and Sexual Intercourse Before marriage

After you are married you will want fidelity in your marriage. You will not want to have sexual relations outside of wedlock nor will you want your partner to. If a person wants to have sexual relations with you out-of-wedlock before marriage, what assurance will you have that either of you will not have sexual relationships outside of wedlock after marriage? Dating is a time to get to know each other but not sexually. I know this is old-fashioned, not common, and ridiculous to young people but it can avoid difficulties such as an unwanted abortion, a marriage that is premature, and hindering of long-term educational and vocational goals.

Thing about what you want to do and what you want to achieve on your first date. You want to get to know a person better, to have fun, and to have a closer relationship. If a person asks you for a date make sure you ask what you will be doing. If you are going to the prom, what will you be doing after the prom. If you know the boys have rented a hotel room, decline. If you are going for pizza, fine. I suggest that playing tennis with your date, going to the rodeo, going skating or skiing or fishing or hiking are activities that you both will feel part of much more so than going to a movie.

Grooming and Dress and Good Manners

When you accept a date, dress according to the activity. Ask your date what is proper and expected. Be clean and neat and don't forget to shine your shoes. When you pick up your date, go to the door. Don't sit out in the car and honk. One school friend tried to get my daughter out of the house with a honk. What he got was my boot.

Marriages are planned by parents in some society although that practice is disappearing. But we use dating to introduce couples and to send them on their way to marital bliss. Both methods work but we have more fun. Well, not me. I'm 79 years old and I've been married to the same women for 58 years. They say that marriage is "for better or for worse." My wife take constant care now. Our love holds us together. I hope that love will hold you to your partner for a very long time. Your parents are very interested in your activities. Don't leave them uninformed. Now you have my first date tips.