I can't really say why, but the idea just never appealed to me. And now that my twins are 18 months old, the idea still doesn't appeal to me. I was afraid that since they Vintage Trouwjurk already looked exactly alike, dressing them exactly alike would cause them to lose some of their identity, making them appear as a set instead of two separate people. But I can say that the coordination bug has hit me hard, and if I find a cute outfit, but there is not a different color option or another outfit that appears to be along the same style, I usually forgo the cute outfit. While I can't bear to dress my twins exactly alike, I also can't bear to dress them in completely different ensembles.
It turns out that many parents deal with this same debate concerning their multiples. I recently polled a group of mothers from Austin Mothers of Multiples, and received some interesting, thought provoking, and chuckle worthy results. Parents are passionate about their children, even down to the jammies they wear at night.
Out of forty-two mothers of multiples (MoMs) who responded to the poll, 55% of them either dress their multiples exactly alike or coordinate their outfits, putting them in the same shirt, but different colors. And when we mention "putting them in" an outfit, we are referring to younger children who are not choosing their own clothing yet. Reasons to dress multiples alike were varied. Some MoMs admitted that it was easier to buy 2 of the same outfit or several shirts in various colors, and parents expecting multiples often receive matching outfits as gifts from friends and family members. Many MoMs, whether their children are fraternal or identical, feel that twinship should be celebrated. "How often in anyone's life would they get to be a part of something such as multiples and all that comes with it?" replies Austin MoM Darla Mason. Jean Sarre admits that dressing her 2 year old identical boys alike is a compulsion, stating, "I know I can't do it forever, but I can't stop doing it right now! Even jammies are matching!" The Vloer Lengte Avondjurken number one reason that parents tend to dress their multiples alike? Because it's just so darned cute. Well, I have to admit, it is.
On the other end of the spectrum, 26% of MoMs said that they never or rarely dress their multiples alike. A lot of these MoMs are making good use of hand me downs from older children of their own or from friends and family members, or they buy most of their clothing second hand. Many parents prefer not to dress their multiples alike in order to foster individuality. "I didn't want to get the 'we're only special as a pair' mentality going," states Austin MoM Farrar Sanchez of her identical girls.
The remaining 19% of MoMs who replied to the poll fall in the "sometimes" category, where dressing alike is usually reserved for special occasions such as portraits or holidays. Debbie Bangor, an identical twin who is MoM to fraternal twins, doesn't dress her boys alike often, but admits that "differences in their looks made me more comfortable with dressing them alike."
So what do the experts say about dressing twins alike? Should you or shouldn't you? There really is no right or wrong answer. Will it damage your multiples later in life if they were dressed alike as babies or young kids? Probably not, unless the issue was forced upon them. Once they start expressing the desire to make their own clothing choices, parents should go with it, appropriateness and weather permitting. You may be surprised to find out that they have completely different tastes. Or that they prefer to wear similar outfits. Whatever the case may be, choose the option that feels most split voor Prom Dresses comfortable for you as their parent.
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